"Some things change, some stay the same..."

The above Pretenders lyric just occurred to me.  I can change some things but there are some that I cannot.  If something irritates me or upsets me I need to think - can I do anything to change this.   If the answer is yes, I should do just that.  If the answer is no, I need to accept that that's how it is and move on.  Easier said than done but necessary.

I was pondering last night why I'm writing this blog.  Am I writing it for anyone reading it?  Well not exactly BUT it may be that something I say resonates with somebody else and makes a difference to their day.  Mostly it's for me to make me focus on the positive and shut out the negative.  I believe that the more I do this the more it will become second nature to me.  I have found myself thinking during the day about things to write so perhaps it is working in ways that I didn't anticipate!

I've been told I'm not very patient when waiting for things to change - this is true to a degree; If I don't lose weight quick enough I get disheartened; if I do something but don't see immediate results I lose faith and give up too easily.  I'd like to think I have a new determination with my positive thinking and will carry this through so it becomes an integral part of my life.  

A key lesson I need to learn personally is that I am me and who I am is not dependent on anyone else.  That may sound a bit obvious to some people but I know I'm guilty of being who I think people want me to be or relying on people to be a certain way (or rebelling and doing the opposite!).  I'm making some progress on this but there's a way to go.

Which has got me thinking - do we ever "get there"?  And if we do, what then?  Hmmm - something else to ponder!!